The video at the end of today’s blog is of Bronnie Ware, an Australian palliative nurse who spent years taking care of people in the last three months of their life. During the many conversations she had with the dying, she asked a simple question and recorded the answers.

Her question was: “Do you have any regrets in your life, and would you do anything differently?”. She put together the five most common regrets for us the living to reflect upon for our own lives. When I personally first read these answers, it made me think about my own life for a few silent minutes.

So what were these regrets: Didn’t make enough money? Wish I had worked more? Wish I had spent more time on social media and sitting at a computer? NO! They were:

  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, and not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
  3. I wish I dared to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

 There are no wiser words, and certainly, none to express the sadness of these few terminal expressions of regret. Yet they are also a gift from the dying to us the living. An opportunity for us all to think and redress the balance of our lives. We can’t buy time and there is only so much wealth one person can have. Life is about people, not possessions, and you can’t take wealth with you when you die. The Egyptians tried, and they got robbed!

Before you watch the video below, count how many of the five regrets above that apply to you. Three of them refer to me which is sad, but I am grateful to those that have passed, that gave us this wisdom because I will indeed be addressing mine.

Thank you so much for reading another of my blogs. Time is a gift, and it is your choice how you use it.

Clifton Bradeley

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